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UM✨ How to set up your online dating profile: have your best friend do it for you.
I did this with my bestie 1.5 years ago and she matched with the love of her life the next week 👀
My friend Kate helped me realize how I wanted to feel with my future partner then I went home and updated my profile that night and matched with my husband the next day…. 👀
Friends are a crucial part of the dating journey.
Thankfully @bumble helps you find both.
Here are my notes for the Bumble Chicago Refresh It. Realize It. Event! ✨
Building your profile
- Must reflect on yourself first. who are you?
- Your profile is a love letter to yourself
- Share a photo of something that isn’t perfect - the reality of who you are
- Ask yourself: How do you want to feel with this person? Not, what are the checklist qualities
- Ex: they should make me feel loved, respected, curious, and safe
- Not: he should be 6 feet, work in finance, own a boat
- Dating is data: Keep a list on your phone after every date — “More of this and less of this”
Vision boarding:
- main goal should be to look at it and ask “how do we want to feel?”
- Create the vibe vs the details (specific tangible thing)
- Whatever you’re hiding is what you need to focus on (shame)
- Want vs need list — is it important to me or is it what I’ve been told I need to want. What’s the story we’re telling ourselves?
Thanks to my new friend @anujab for inviting us to the event 😘
Should we host a profile set up girls night??
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