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FL"I was just thinking of you."
According to behavioral researcher Vanessa Van Edwards (often featured on podcasts like The Diary of a CEO), there are three "magic phrases" that instantly boost your likeability by making others feel seen and valued.
"I was just thinking of you." Used authentically, this signals that someone occupies space in your mind even when they aren't present. Whether via text or in person ("I was just thinking of you, how'd that project go?"), it assures them that they matter to you.
"You are always so..." This involves giving someone a positive identity label, such as "You're always so funny" or "You're always so insightful." It works because of "signal amplification bias"—people often don't realize you admire them unless you explicitly say it.
"Last time we talked, you mentioned..." This proves you were actively listening and cared enough to remember specific details. Bringing up something they "lit up" about (a project, a hobby) is the ultimate compliment because it honors their passions.
Source: The Diary Of A CEO
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