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YO1. He can’t handle hard conversations without shutting down or getting defensive.
2. His follow-through is unpredictable — hot one week, cold the next.
3. Stress turns him into a ghost instead of a partner.
4. Every emotional need you have feels “too much.”
5. He apologizes without changing anything.
6. You carry the plans, the feelings, the repair… everything.
7. You feel more stable alone than with him.
8. His words are big, but his bandwidth is tiny.
9. He confuses independence with emotional unavailability.
10. He needs you to “remind” him of basic relationship responsibilities.
11. His idea of showing up is just… not disappearing.
12. He can talk about his stress for hours, but yours overwhelms him.
13. When you bring up a need, he acts like you’re asking for the world.
14. He thinks texting semi regularly = being consistent.
15. Your feelings are “a lot,” but his are a full-time job for you.
16. He wants partnership benefits without partnership responsibilities.
17. He calls himself “simple,” but he’s actually emotionally absent.
18. He only helps when asked, and wants credit every time.
19. He has time for hobbies, friends, scrolling, and rest… but not for relational effort.
20. You’re always the one initiating repair after conflict.
21. He wants your emotional support, but can’t offer any back.
Good heart or not, low capacity becomes high exhaustion for you.
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