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THI planned for her to be an only child.
Not by accident. Not by circumstance.
By choice.
And people hate that.
They tell me she’ll be lonely. Spoiled. Missing out on something fundamental.
That I’m being selfish. That siblings are a gift I’m denying her.
The Only Child Theory explains why the world is so uncomfortable with parents who choose one.
Because it challenges the narrative that more children equals more love.
That a complete family requires siblings.
That an only child is somehow broken or lacking.
But here’s what they don’t see.
She gets all of me.
My time. My energy. My focus.
I’m not splitting myself between multiple children and drowning in the process.
I’m not stretched so thin that no one gets the best of me.
I chose one child because I wanted to be fully present.
Not surviving. Not juggling. Not in survival mode for two decades.
Actually present.
And she’s not lonely.
She has friends. Cousins. A full life.
What she doesn’t have is a mother who’s too exhausted to show up for her.
I’m done defending this choice.
One child doesn’t make me selfish.
It makes me intentional.
And she is loved, seen, and given everything I have.
Not half of me.
All of me.
@thisisola___
