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DR🧠 Top 3 Things a Dismissive-Avoidant Partner Will Say (and What They Really Mean)
“Maybe I just can’t give you what you need.”
This isn’t just avoidance—it’s a trauma response. Dismissive-avoidants often feel defective when asked to emotionally connect. Their nervous system goes into freeze mode, and this phrase becomes their way of withdrawing.
“I don’t know.”
It’s not avoidance—it’s dissociation. DAs are deeply disconnected from their emotions due to childhood emotional neglect. They literally don’t know how they feel, and it takes them much longer to process emotions than most people.
“You’re being too sensitive.”
Because they suppress their own emotions, dismissive-avoidants often struggle to access empathy. What sounds cold to you may feel “normal” to them—and they’re often confused by others’ emotional needs.
If you’re wondering if these people can change — Yes—dismissive-avoidants can grow and heal ❤️🩹
But it takes targeted nervous system intervention and attachment wound repair, while also building capacity around their own consciousness. That’s exactly what we do inside my Hybrid Group Coaching Program—and DAs actually thrive in it.
✨ If you’re in a relationship with a DA (or are one yourself), head to thelovedoc.com to learn more or DM me for help.
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