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THWhen I was a teenager I had really low self-esteem. I struggled with confidence, I hated how I looked, and I was envious of anyone who seemed to have a strong sense of self, and an effortless way of being in the world.
People always referred to me as quiet, and I hated that because I didn’t think it was a fair representation of me.
Infact, I’m pretty assertive, opinionated and capable- I just didn’t know it then!
Looking back at the journey to see myself as EQUAL, these 3 things stand out:
1. Purpose - Discovering my strengths, my values/beliefs, and figuring out a way to contribute to the world in a meaningful way has been hugely influential in strengthening my sense of self. It has helped me find belonging, feel valuable and capable.
2. Friendship - friendships (and mentors) helped me see and believe that I am worthy of love. Feeling accepted and known, and safe to be ourselves is so important.
3. Courage - towards the end of my teenage years and into my twenties I started to take risks. I stepped out of my comfort zone, tried new things, moved away from the safety of home, met new people, put myself out there even though I often felt not good enough….and this hugely grew my confidence.
I didn’t set out to work on my self-worth, but doing these 3 things produced self-acceptance, confidence, and a strong sense of identity.
These 3 things are backed up by Adlerian theory. This is what my work focuses on.
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