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THHills I Will Die On as a High Masking AuDHD Mum to a High Masking ADHD Daughter
🧠 Just because she’s quiet doesn’t mean she’s coping.
Stillness doesn’t mean a still nervous system.
🧠 High masking is not the same as high functioning.
It just means she’s learned how to hide her struggle so that you don’t notice
🧠 If she stims, she stays regulated.
That small repetitive movement with her feet? That’s her nervous system self soothing. I will never shame that out of her.
🧠 Exhaustion after social events is not attitude.
It’s the crash after a acting “normal.”
🧠 She is allowed to take up space without being loud about it. ADHD in girls often whispers. That doesn’t make it smaller.
🧠 I will not praise her for how well she masks.
I will praise her for knowing when to unmask.
🧠 She does not owe the world eye contact, small talk or constant cheerfulness.
🧠 I am raising her to understand her brain, not fight it.
I can’t quiet the world for her - but I can build her a space where her nervous system is safe. Save this for the days you forget and send it to someone who needs a softer place to land too ✨
@the.lyons.life
