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ITAs a child psychologist, these are my favorite evidence-based “hacks” for behavior problems. They sound simple. They are simple. And they work.
I use these daily. I didn’t invent them. They’re rooted in behavioral science, attachment research, and parent training models like PCIT and PMT.
And yes, they’re especially powerful for neurodivergent kids.
✨ Intentional, child-led time
10 minutes. No phone. No teaching. No correcting.
Connection lowers stress and increases cooperation.
Behaviorally, you’re increasing positive attention for appropriate behavior.
“Special playtime” alone has been shown to improve overall behavior.
✨ Disengage from negative behavior
Attention is reinforcement. Even irritated attention counts.
If whining or arguing reliably gets a response, it strengthens.
When we reduce attention to minor negative behaviors and shift it to appropriate ones, we change the reinforcement pattern.
This isn’t ignoring feelings. It’s being strategic about what you strengthen.
✨ Specific, labeled praise
I love all praise. But if you want more of a behavior, name it.
“You got started without complaining. That was awesome.”
Labeled praise increases the exact behavior you identify and builds competence.
Neurodivergent kids especially benefit from this clarity.
✨ Calm, consistent follow-through
This one is big.
If we set a limit and give in once behavior escalates, we train escalation.
That’s intermittent reinforcement, and it’s powerful.
When negative behavior makes the adult back down, it intensifies next time.
Say what you mean. Stay regulated. Follow through.
Predictability increases emotional safety.
None of this is flashy.
All of it is backed by decades of research.
And yes, this works with strong-willed, anxious, ADHD, and autistic kids. Not because they need control. But because they need clarity, connection, and consistency.
Want more high-impact, low-effort strategies? Comment EASY and I’ll send my handout with six more
And stick around @itsdoctorhannah if you like parenting tips that are high in science but free from #momguilt
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